What is Consent?

Consent is:

  • A voluntary, sober, imaginative, enthusiastic, creative, wanted informed, mutual, honest, verbal agreement
  • An active agreement: consent cannot be coerced
  • A process that must be asked for every step of the way; if you want to move to the next level of sexual intimacy, you should ask
  • Never implied and cannot be assumed, even in the context of a relationship. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that you have permission to have sex with your partner.


Consent is not:

  • When someone says no repeatedly and finally says yes
  • If someone is incapacitated by substances
  • If someone has only agreed to an earlier act
  • When there is an absence of a “no”
  • If someone uses their position of power or authority to coerce or manipulate someone into saying “yes”


When can a person not give consent by law?

  • When a person is incapacitated or unconscious as a result of the consumption of alcohol or drugs.
  • When someone is mentally disabled
  • Once a person says “no”

It does not matter what sexual act has taken place previously in the current event, earlier or daily for an extended period of time.

If one partner says, “NO” and the other continues then the sexual interaction, sexual assault is   occurring.